I don't recall if I ever told you, but I met my hubby on a blind date. A date that, had my hubby or I listened to our first instinct, may have never happened. See, my brother in law set us up & our story goes somewhat like this....
My BIL stated that he had the "perfect" guy for me. That was the funniest thing I had heard in awhile. There was no way my BIL could spot the "perfect" guy EVER. See, the beau from Day 3 was my BIL's best friend & I wasn't risking meeting up with another guy like that. As much as my BIL insisted "Mr. Perfect" wasn't anything like Day 3 dude, I wasn't hearing it.
A few weeks later my BIL comes, into my place of work, to deliver a message. "You have a date Friday, so don't make plans". WHAT??! I could not believe he did that. Angry does not begin to describe how I felt. I think he was prepared for some back lash. He tried to reassure me with things like, we'll be there, give him a shot, "Mr. Perfect" is marriage material....to which I exclaimed Marriage Material, What do YOU know about marriage material??!! As much as I loved my BIL, he's like a real brother to me, he was far from grown up. He didn't know "marriage material" if it hit him upside his head!!
All week I was livid. I was not going on this date. Friday night came & right up until the time I went, I wanted to bail on this guy. The 4 of us met up for dinner. I made plans for later that night, it was my escape card, so we all parted ways fairly early. I wasn't for sure if he was "the one". A week had gone by when my BIL said "He's afraid you'll forget what he looks like. Can I set something up again soon?" I hadn't really thought much about another date, but found it cute he'd say something so funny as forgetting what he looked like. I agreed. We could do something the following weekend.
This time we went bowling. I was taken back by how laid back he was. Real easy going, never rushing, funny, and charming. I was still apprehensive though. I just didn't want to jump into anything. We discussed a date for the following weekend, but this time it was going to be just the two of us. We planned to go see a movie, but when he picked me up, he asked if he could run home & check his pipes. LOL Say what? It was freezing outside & he was worried his pipes might freeze. We drove to his place, 45 mins away, & it felt silly to come all the way back for a movie. So, we stayed in & watched one there. It actually worked out better. Being somewhere private, instead of a theater, gave us lots of talk time. I did more of the talking but he was a really great listener, something I had NEVER experienced. From that night on, we were pretty much inseparable. This was the first time something had felt so right in my whole life.
I had friends telling me they didn't understand the match. He just wasn't the "typical" guy I'd chosen on other occasions. You know what? I was fine with that because honestly, look where those relationships got me. Maybe that's what the problem was. Up until this point I would have gone back & changed every relationship I'd had but like I said on Day 2, I now understood, I would have never appriciated him like I do.
Following my heart is the best thing I have ever done. Oh, & I forget to mention.....He almost skipped out on me too. He had no idea who he was going to be set up with. For all he knew, I could have been the world's biggest psycho, but now we know......God had bigger plans for the both of us.
We have since given my BIL credit for setting us up & told him he was right on countless occasions. I've given him crap about it though. I said he no longer had excuses. If he could spot "marriage material", he better start being it himself & he has. My sister is very blessed. The two of them stood in with us at our wedding & again were by our side at our convalidation.
Today is Day 7 of my challenge. On one day, you are supposed to pick a song you want played at your wedding. Well, shoot, I already got married so its already picked. It's the most appropriate song for us though.
"This much I know is true, God blessed the broken road, that lead me straight to you".........
aw that's awesome!
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